Show & Tell Sex

Ep. 5: White Supremacy in Sex Education

Self Serve Toys — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 22:00:42 +0000

In this episode of Show & Tell Sex we talk about white supremacy in sex education. Our guests for this episode are Jennifer Marley & Cindy Lee Alves. Jenn is an Albuquerque activist & UNM student, member of the San Ildefonso Pueblo and working with the Red Nation. Cindy Lee is a sexologist and educator working on her doctoral degree, and activist with the Women of Color Sexual Health Network.

We talk about examples of white supremacy in sex education, why representation matters and how people of color can thrive & take care of themselves in systems of white supremacy.

Resources from our chat:

The Red Nation (therednation.org)

The Rez Condom Tour (facebook.com/rezcondomtour)

Cindy Lee Alves (cindyleealves.com)

Cindy Lee tshirts!! (http://bit.ly/CindyLeeTees)

Cindy Lee FB Page (facebook.com/cindyleealves)

and @CindyLeeAlves on most social media sites

Women of Color Sexual health Network (wocshn.org)

The Association of Black Sexologists and Clinicians (theabsc.com)

The ABSC pre con mentioned by Cindy Lee in the episode can be found at https://www.facebook.com/WOCSHN/posts/832501700263322

We love and appreciate your feedback, ratings & reviews on our show! It helps more people find us. Email us at info@selfservetoys.com to send your feedback via email. Or call us (505) 585-5528 to leave us feedback in an audio comment. Make sure find our social media sites to stay up to date with what weâ€™re doing. Weâ€™re on Instagram, Facebook & twitter as SelfServeToys. Or leave us a comment here!

Our music was created by Lazarus Letcher

Ep. 4: Masculinity, Sexuality & Dating a Sex Shop Employee

Self Serve Toys — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 21:51:07 +0000

In this episode of Show & Tell Sex we talk about masculinity & sexuality with two guests, Leon Mitchell & Charles Nairn-Mahan. We recorded this episode at the first ever New Mexico Podscape Festival so we were fortunate to have lots of audience questions & additions. We got a chance to talk to Leon about his journey with masculinity as a bi-racial, bi-national transgender man, and how his relationship with masculinity grew and was shaped throughout his life. We talked with Charles about growing up in a household where his mother was the head of house, and how that shaped his relationship with masculinity. We spoke with audience members and our guests about what they love about masculinity, and what they have learned to leave behind. We also talked with Charles a bit a about what itâ€™s like to date someone who works at a sex shop.
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EP 3: Stories & Perspectives on Non-Monogamy

Self Serve Toys — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 21:40:55 +0000

In this episode of Show and Tell Sex we talk with counselor Lacey Stewart about being a sex positive mental health professional. We also take some time to talk about non-monogamy with Albuquerque educator & activist Sera Miles & Kevin Patterson of the Poly Role Models blog. We chat with them about what their non-monogamy looks like and what it means to them, media representation, identity, race, queerness & their role models. We also chat with Reid Mihalko about a few of the tools he finds useful to consider when youâ€™re getting into or curious about non-monogamy.

Interview notes:
- We talk about shame for patients and therapists when it comes to sex
- The power of permission and interviewing your therapist
- How different people found non-monogamy and why it suits them
- How polyamory communities can be more representative & less homogenous
- How to talk about opening up a relationship with you partner.

Thanks
We love and appreciate your feedback on our show. Email us at info@selfservetoys.com to send your feedback via email. Or call us at (505) 585-5538 to leave us feedback in an audio comment. Make sure to find us social media sites to stay up to date with what weâ€™re doing Instagram, Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here.
Our music was created by Lazarus Letcher.

Resources:
Lacey Stewart and Beyond Ideas Counseling (ow.ly/Kz7U30dMMMg)

Sera Miles (www.seramiles.com)

Kevin Patterson and The Poly Role Models blog (polyrolemodels.tumblr.com)

Kevinâ€™s Response to the New York Timeâ€™s Article about Polyamory
(ow.ly/6V5k30dMP13)

Reid Mihalko and Date Your Species (ow.ly/CQUJ30dMPca)

Ep. 2: Just a Couples of Kinksters

Self Serve Toys — Mon, 27 Nov 2017 21:27:26 +0000

In this episode of Show and Tell Sex we talk about the kinky & BDsM lifestyle. Our guests are Frida Azizi & Dirty Lola, kinksters in the Albuquerque & Brooklyn scenes. Frida talks about being a second-generation kinkster and the history of kink & BDsM, Lola talks about safety and her love of teaching the kink-curious newbies.

Interview notes:

- We talk about identities and experiences,

- The impact of the internet

- How community dynamics unfold within BDsM,

-Building bridges between "the old & new guards",

- What it's like to be a person of color and/or gender queer person in these scenes and more!

Call-in: Show and Tell Stories

We host a phone line where people can call and tell us their topic related experiences. We ask a questions for the next episode and people call it in

(505) 585-5538

Thanks

Our music was created by Lazarus Letcher.

Resources:

Playing Well With Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities

BDSM vs. Abuse

Yes, No Maybe Checklist to Help Find Where to Start

Upcoming Events:

Saturday June 17th, 11am - 9pm: Asdz???? Warrior Fest

Wednesday June 21st, 8:30pm - 11:30pm: CA-VOM Cabaret Audacity Show & Vaudeville Open Mic

Thursday June 22nd, 7:30pm-9pm: Kinky & Curious: Navigating Play & the BDsM Lifestyle

Saturday June 24th, 5pm-9pm: TRANspire: A celebration of Art Centering New mexican Transgender and Gender Non-Conforming Artists & Community

Wednesday June 28th, 7:30pm-9pm: Gspot Orgasms & How to Squirt

EP1: Celebrating Masturbation

Self Serve Toys — Fri, 01 Sep 2017 20:12:30 +0000

In this episode of Show and Tell Sex weâ€™ll talk about Masturbation! Our guests are Rebecca Jones, Jerome Stuart Nichols, & Dr. Carol Queen. Rebecca Jones, a Planned Parenthood educator in New Mexico, shares her experience teaching youth about sexuality & masturbation. Jerome Stuart Nichols discusses masturbation as meditation and the joys of manufacturing a lubricant for sex & solo play. Dr. Carol Queen talks about the history of masturbation month and how the holiday concept became reality in the 90â€™s and what sheâ€™s learned as a sex educator over her lifetime. Matie fricker talks about what sheâ€™s learned about self love through selling sex toys at Self Serve Toys.

Show notes:
- We hear a confession from our listener line
-What sex educators know about masturbation
-Masturbation as celebration and self love
-Resources for youth
-Masturbation Month
-The vibrator that changed everything

Show and Tell Sex: An intro and a little foreplay

Self Serve Toys — Thu, 24 Aug 2017 18:53:53 +0000

Show & Tell Sex is a podcast that provides a fun & comfortable space to show & tell our sex, relationship & body stories. Produced by Self Serve Toys and KUNM.

Welcome to the very first episode of Show & Tell Sex. A podcast that will dive into topics often left unspoken. Join co-hosts Matie Fricker and Hunter Riley to learn more about sex-positive education, why talking about sex can feel scary or uncomfortable, and why we're passionate about changing that. This mini-episode will help you get acquainted to who we are, and why we do what we do in our feminist & body positive sex toy shop in Albuquerque NM.

We love and appreciate your feedback on our show. Email us at info@selfservetoys.com to send your feedback via email. Or call us at (505) 585-5538 to leave us feedback in an audio comment. Make sure to find us social media sites to stay up to date with what weâ€™re doing Instagram, Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here.
Our music was created by Lazarus Letcher.
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Show & Tell sex is a podcast produced by Self Serve Toys in collaboration with KUNM, a public radio station in Albuquerque NM. Self Serve toys is a feminist sex shop in Albuquerque New Mexico, specializing in body-safe, non-toxic toys with a health and education focus. Find us online at selfservetoys.com. Weâ€™ll show the parts that so often get left unsaid.
We will show the parts that we have silenced. We will tell our secrets. We will be brave together.
And weâ€™ll have some fun--because show and tell was always fun.